Hi Khsoib,
My motherboard supplyer has the solution for me. Today we finished the test. They give us a new BIOS. See change notes below. Because we have it also on other version Intel NIC's I asked them if this solution also work for that. For now we have tested 3 weeks without problems. We had mb that gives problems every 2 hour and also mb that gives problem every week (or longer). We didn't see problems now for 3weeks on any board.
Specification Update of Intel® 82574 by Revision 3.9, we change the BIOS
setting to disable the ASPM Support.